Dedicated to a refuah shelaima for Moshe Aaron ben Necha Itta, Binyamin ben Simcha, Sharon bas Shoshana, and Chaya Sarah bas Esther Leah
Bein adam l’chavero, the mitzvos between one person and
another, are the bedrock of civilization. More than that, these Torah’s mitzvos
are – to be blunt – fascinating in their constant application to every aspect
of life.
This week’s parsha, Behar-Bechukosai starts with the laws of
Shmittah, during which the Jewish nation demonstrates their deep trust in
Hashem and their Divinely imposed respect for the land. It then moves on to the
laws of the years of Yuval, Jubilee, and through that discusses the many
limitations of selling property in the Holy Land. Basically, in summary, one
can really only lease land on a pro-rated scale as it must revert to its
original portioning at the coming of the Yuval.
Through these discussions of real estate, however, comes the
very significant commandment of Al Tonu Eish Et Ahav – you must not cheat one
man to another.
From here come the laws connected to Onaas Devarim, using
words to hurt another. These laws cover such subtle issues as misleading a
salesman that you might have the intention to buy something when, in all honesty,
you are simply price comparing. You cannot give a fellow Jew the impression
that you are going to give them business on false pretext. That, of course, is
just one example. The unfortunate “opportunities” for onaas devarim are…multitudinous,
almost as vast as the opportunities for lashon harah and rechilus, and the primary
reason for this is that most of us have an incredibly difficult time being
truly mindful of our speech and actions.
The idea of “vexing” – of causing hardship or wrongness – is
so important that it is mentioned twice in the same perek, which seems a little
odd. In pasuk 14, it says: “When you sell property to your neighbor, or buy any
from your neighbor, you shall not wrong one another.” Three pasukim later, in
verse 17, it states: “Do not wrong one another, but fear your God; for I Hashem am your God.” This verse uses different
language than Pasuk 14. It uses Lo instead of Al. Both are Hebrew words, and
both share a basic word meaning foundation (indeed, they are both composed of
only an aleph and a lamed), but they are subtly different.
In the first verse, it is an immediate command – Al Tonu –
Thou shalt not. When you are in the middle of your land deal, when you are thinking
about how much profit you can make or what corners can be cut, there is a
mandate upon you to think of what is being done to the other person.
In the second verse is Pasuk 17: “Do not wrong one another,”
Lo Tonu puts that onus on the person to prepare to avoid ways of hurting
others. The first verse could lead one to mistakenly think that this injunction
against “wronging” is only connected to business, to real estate specifically,
but Pasuk 17 comes to make certain it is clear that it is remembered throughout
all aspects of life.
This might leave the question of why there are two pasukim
when the second covers it all. This goes back to the subtle difference between
al and lo. Al is a reminder in the moment, when an “impossible-to-resist”
opportunity is sitting in front of you and you know you can make a clear profit,
but that profit will be to the excessive cost to your fellow. That is when you
must remember that our goal in life is to emulate Hashem, to do good in the
world…not to make the most profit.
In the plethora of laws that are laid down in the Torah, simple
statements like “Do not wrong one another” are easy to pass over. We read it
and almost shrug in our conviction that this is not something that we do
anyway. But in our day to day lives, amid the constant navigation of family,
friends, community, and business, it is easy to focus on ourselves and our
needs. We need to prepare ourselves to not be the type of person who would
wrong another and also be prepared to stop ourselves when our needs or our
wants push forward against those of another to the point that we might forget our
fellowship with them.
It is significant to note that the next pasuk says: “You
must carry out My rules and safeguard My ordinances and perform them. You will
then live on the land securely.” The laws set down in the Torah that seem to be
about land or business or rule of law are guidelines and shields to the most
important laws that underline the Torah world: Think about the other person. Do
not put yourself first. Be a mentch.
I wish you all a beautiful Shabbas.