Parshas Vayeira: Talk to Hashem

(I hate to start the parsha off with an apology, but I am going to do so nevertheless. I am adjusting to a very different teaching schedule this year, which means I have to rewire my brain to write earlier, which I have not yet managed. My process, therefore, is a bit more curtailed and off-the-cuff than I would like  - meaning less reading into the words and more conceptual.)

 

It would be easy to jump into all that the parsha has to say about Hagar and Yishmael this week to talk about the situation in the world. This is, after all, the beginning of Yishmael. Indeed, even before Yishmael, we see the root of the problem in Hagar, who, according to the Midrashim, flaunted herself before Sarah as the real wife of Avraham because of her ability to carry a child. Hagar did not see that Sarah’s own spiritual greatness was a contributing factor to the greatness of this family. It is interesting to note that between Yishmael and the sons she bore when she returned as Keturah, the children of Hagar, the population disparity was 7 to 1. But population, or might, did not make right, and Hashem designated only Yitzchak as Avraham’s true heir.

 

Thus has it been proven how easy it is to look at Parshas Vayeira and see deep connections to our life and times in 2024. There is, however, another section of the parsha that seems important to look at, and that is Avraham’s conversation with Hashem about S’dom.

 

One could consider Avraham’s petition to Hashem futile. Afterall, he didn’t stop the destruction of S’dom. S’dom’s destruction was, at that point, inevitable. Every argument that Avraham could prepare was something Hashem had already taken into consideration. Hashem had made His decree, and history was set in motion. So why was this discussion included in the Torah? Indeed, not only was it included, but the Torah goes out of its way to stress how important Hashem felt it was to tell Avraham about that which was about to happen.

 

But everything in the Torah serves a purpose for the future of Klal Yisrael. Throughout the thousands of years of our history, the Jewish people have faced times of immense crisis. Often, we could see the danger coming, but it seemed that the spirals of history were too far in motion to be stopped. We might feel forsaken. We might feel unheard. We might even feel bereft and abandoned.

 

Hashem wants us to be like Avraham, to react and to try to change the world. The dialogue with Avraham tells us that we still have a proactive responsibility to try, to pray, to beseech Hashem. There are no unstoppable spirals; there is only that which Hashem decrees. S’dom couldn’t be spared or redeemed, but still Hashem listened and was mindful of that which Avraham argued. Hashem listened to the possibility, dwindling, that there might be righteous people left, and one must believe that if He could have found a redeeming feature for S’dom, He would have.

 

The year 5784 feels like the beginning of another spiral. So much has happened that feels out of control, out of line with the natural course of history and society… that’s, at least, how it feels. We have davened to Hashem, and yet we still await resolution. We have beseeched Hashem, and the hostages are still not free.

 

Avraham kept inquiring down to the last 10. This is the chizuk that we must take from the parsha. History has a path, Hashem’s path. We won’t always like it; it will sometimes be devastating – in truth - but Hashem knows the far greater plan. Our voices cannot remain silent, because our calling out to Hashem is the core of our relationship; it is our true inheritance from Avraham.

 

 

 

 

 

Parshas Lech Lecha: The Extra Hoo

 As a child, one of the most exciting ideas to learn is that every person has a unique fingerprint. Even when we are young, our psyche ponders our place in the world, our role in the universe, and learning that our fingerprints are completely our own – even if one is an identical twin – is an affirmation to our uniqueness. Fingerprints are a physical expression of an important fact, that each one of us has a unique neshama.

 

The essence of human life is that we are a combination of goof and neshama, the physical and the spiritual, and this, perhaps, has significance when one reads Bereishis 13:1. “And Avram went up from Mitzrayim - he and his wife and all that was to him - and with Lot, to the Negev/South.” The grammar in this pasuk leaves much to question for its seeming redundancy. Avram went up – he and his wife. Why does the pasuk add the pronoun hoo/he, when it already states his action? Why are Avram and Lot named, but not Sarai?

 

Each one of these people had a journey that impacted them on every level. Avram came to Mitzrayim and became a man of great wealth and influence. There in what was considered the epitome of civilization in the ancient world, Avram gained material wealth and associated power. For most people, being so well treated and honored by Pharoah would be seen as the epitome of success. But Avram was able to look beyond the material gains of Mitzrayim and recognize that returning to Eretz Canaan was the truly upward path. Avram, when leaving Mitzrayim, took both his physical self and his spiritual self.

 

Hoo v'eeshto – He and his wife. Why isn’t Sarai named. Certainly, their journey to Mitzrayim impacted her more than anyone else. She was physically taken to Pharoah, held captive and unsolicitedly wooed. But for Sarai, there was no attraction to life in Mitzrayim. There was no risk of her losing track of who she was and what her purpose was. According to Bereishis Rabba, Avram put her in a box to protect her on their way into Mitzrayim, and while that may not have kept her from the soldiers’ notice, she went down to Mitzrayim spiritually protected. Thus when they went up she was the same partner she had always been; she was the match to Avram’s “hoo.”

 

Lot, on the other hand, left Mitzrayim with his name and his wealth. He didn’t change for the better not did he adhere to principles. Lot went with Avram when Avram went up because he had to, but he, his deeper essence, did not ascend. Lot just followed.

 

Parshas Lech Lecha is a parsha very much about being and journeying. Who we are and where we are matter, as does where we are heading. And all of that can be understood on the two distinct plains of existence. We may live in a place that is spiritually unhealthy, but we ourselves do not have to become spiritually unhealthy. It is easy to be like Lot and lose yourself to physical comfort and material enrichment. It is inspirational to look to Sarai and know that even in times of mortal danger one can maintain one’s spiritual dominance. But it is to Avram that klal Yisrael looks to demonstrate how we must emulate our ancestors. He accepted success but always remembered the importance of his relationship with Hashem. He did not shun wealth, but later, when he saw how wealth effected his nephew, he was able to prioritize proper conduct over material ease.

 

 This week’s parsha starts out with Lech Lecha, those famous words that can be translated as “Go for yourself.” Each of us is on a unique journey through this world. And each of us must strive to make certain that we are not just a name, not just the physical manifestation of ourselves, but that we bring with us our neshamos, that we go up as we go forward.

 Wishing you all a beautiful Shabbas.

 

Parsha Noah: In an Era of Safa

 Parshas Noah: In an Era of Safa

Let’s be honest. Many of us are looking to the week ahead and wondering what will be. As I write this Dvar Torah at midnight on Erev Shabbas Rosh Chodesh MarCheshvan, the headlines are filled with discussions of Iran’s threats of imminent attack and no one can even make sense of the political headlines on the eve of the US elections. Thank goodness Hashem runs the world as we mere mortals are truly on the wrong track.

 

Interestingly, we might be on the same wrong track as one described in this week’s parsha - the Dor Haflaga, the generation of the Tower of Bavel. It is a narrative we all know. The world’s population gathered together and built a tower with the intention of fighting Hashem. They believed that they had no need for Hashem. If we look back twenty years or so ago, many people in the west possibly felt same way. Certainly, there were problems, global hot spots or revolutions, but with the dissolution of the Cold War, most nations felt more connected than ever. The internet’s pervasiveness crossed and broke boundaries; it brought people together. Technology would shape our lives.

 

When we talk about language in a Torah context, most of us think of lashon, which is also the word for the tongue. It’s how we form words internally. Our inner voice is the voice of our souls. But Bereishis 11 does not talk about lashon. It talks about safa, the language of the lips.

 

Safa is an external language. Safa is the language of the internet. Safa is the language spoken because that’s what everyone else is saying. It’s how politics devolved into hyperbole and soundbytes and name calling, because it became more important to sound like part of the herd then to stand out.

 

The Dor Haflaga was noted as being unified, and one might argue that today’s society is divided rather than unified – is unable to build because it is shaking its own foundations. But this question is addressed in an interesting Kli Yakar on Bereishis 11:1:

 

“For when the wicked gather together, they think among themselves of wicked plans against others. On top of this, fights, disagreements, and hatred break out among them. And this is the law of jealousy (alluding to Numbers 5:29) that is found among groups, all the actions of which are not for the sake of the Heavens, but rather to make a name for themselves in the world (referring to Genesis 11:4). And the main reason for this is that, since each one has his own personal motive, their hearts are divided against each other. For this one will desire money and glory, that one much food, the other much sex, and still another one will say, "Let's make a name for ourselves," and wants to be the highest of the high. Because of this, a fight develops. Either it is from not having one goal, given that there are many evil paths, whereas there is only one good path. Or it is from each one wanting and desiring to be more important and higher than the others. And is this trait not found in most of our people? Hence the dispersion of these groups is better than their assembly…”

We see this today. The language of protest is used to promote harrassment. The language of justice is used to promote hate. Our world is so much larger than the world of the Dor Haflaga. (After all, we aren’t the regeneration of human life after a world-washing flood.) Therefore, it is harder to recognize how unified the language of the world is. But it has been pointed out, far too many times lately, that both “the right” and “the left” have seen a dramatic rise in unveiled anti-Semitism. They are two sides of the same coin.

 

The Dor Haflaga lived in a time when Hashem’s presence was almost physical (Hashem is described as walking through Gan Eden, Noah is described as walking with Hashem). That was many eras ago, before Hashem pulled Himself back and before Hashem designated one nation to represent Him amongst all the others. The Dor Haflaga used their safa to build a tower to attack Hashem, the upcoming generation in western society – in their need to be seen as heroic, each as a “good” person – are using their safa to slander and demoralize Klal Yisrael, that one nation.

 

The Dor Haflaga recognized the existence of Hashem but resisted the idea of being under control. Today’s generation does not believe in Hashem, in the active force of God in the world. But, the Jewish people know differently.

 

Everything that has occurred over the last fateful year makes it almost impossible not to see Hashem’s hand in the world. Hashem is blindfolding an entire generation so that they appear unable to see true evil when it is before them, and Hashem is doing this, perhaps, so that Klal Yisrael will have their own eyes opened and will step away from the other nations and closer to Him before He knocks down their figurative tower.

 

With this in mind, as the week bears down on us, let us pray not for the right outcome – since what ever outcome occurs is right, is per Hashem’s intentions – but rather, let us daven the Klal Yisrael be given the strength to stay strong and see truth.

 

I wish you all a beautiful Shabbas

Parshas Nitzavim-Vayelech: 21st Century Wood and Stone

There is something extraordinarily profound about the opening of this week’s Parsha, Parshas Nitzavim-Vayelech. Unlike many parshios that start with Vayomer or Vayidaber or a few common phrases, this week’s parsha begins with words to which we must take heed. Atem – You all, Nitzavim – are standing, Hayom -this day, Coolchem – all of you, Lifnei Hashem – in front of Hashem.

 

It's powerful, yes because we are on the cusp of the Yomim Noarayim, on the days when we stand before the Sovereign Judge and ask that He see us with favor. But it is also powerful because it specifies “All of you” and “This day.” The unity that we all so frequently pontificate about is something necessary everyday, and Devarim 29:9 immediately reminds us of the tremendous power of our unity.

 

The opening of the parsha goes on to express who is included in “all of you”: men, women, and children; Jews by birth and “Jews by choice”; and those who seem, in some eyes, to be the lowest level of society. Every descendant – physical and spiritual - of Avraham, Yitzchak, and Yaakov is included in coolchem because everyone of these neshamos understands the trials and tribulations that took us out of Mitzrayim, out of the narrow straits of the world, and separated us from the nations. Then the Torah reminds us “And you saw their abominations and their repugnant idols of wood and stone, silver and gold which were with them” (29:16).  

 

It is a strange pasuk – which might be why it is a fairly well-known one. And where once we understood this pasuk to refer to those who worshiped idols – which were a threat to our nation in the days before the Anshei Knesses Hagadola davened for the removal of the taiva for avodah zara - it came to be understood as a reference to Christianity and Islam – wood or the cross and stone for the Black Stone of Mecca.

 

Just as the commentators understanding of the idols of wood and stone, silver and gold passed the test of time as the Western World was dominated by the other Abrahamic religions, so too we can look at our world today – a world in which religion seems to bear a political role far beyond belief systems – and recognize the necessary warning of abominations.

 

As the US Presidential election approaches, Jews in the country with the second largest Jewish population* in the world need to decide for whom to vote, and the choice – at least from my perspective – seems impossible. The country has polarized to the right and to the left. To the left is stone. The stone is a cold heart that finds it difficult to acknowledge the atrocities committed on October 7^th or to sympathize with Jewish students harassed on their college campuses. To the left are people who have embraced the rallying cries of the anti-Israel protesters and don’t even understand the murderous meaning of “From the river to the sea.” To the left is the delusion of safety among people who claim to have no bias but who have been empowering anti-Semitism for years.

 

To the right is wood. To the right are people who speak with fiery rhetoric about protecting Israel’s right to exist, but who, more and more, have been open to embracing men and women with deeply troubling beliefs. To the right are people who sound trust-worthy but whose values, historically, lean toward defining Jews as other.

 

The idols of wood and stone are still with us today, still luring us into trouble. The antidote to those troubles, however, has already been stated. “You are all standing this day before the Lord, your God…” (Devarim 29:9). Hayom – this day – tells us that this pasuk is important in every era. Coolchem – all of you – tells us, once again, about our most powerful weapon, which is Jewish unity. Our weapon is Nitzavim, which means to stand in an upright position.

 

Obviously, it is important to vote in the national election - That is one’s right and duty as a citizen. But as a Jew, it is most important that we stand together, stand proud of who we are, and, most significantly, remember that we stood before Hashem and we continue to stand before Hashem.

 

In a few more days, it will be Rosh Hashana (when we will literally be standing all day…lol) 5785. I think it is fair to say that 5784 was a year in which Hashem made it clear that our place, the place of the Jewish people, is neither to the right nor the left. Our place is outside of politics because our job is to remember and uphold our covenant with Hashem.

 

May this Shabbas be restful and the upcoming Rosh Hashana usher in a new year that sees victory and peace.

 

*possibly the first by a few thousand different according to the Jewish Virtual Library

Parshas Ki Tavo – The Important of Being Good

 As an English teacher, I often ask students to take a large concept and break it down to its most simplified form. Parshas Ki Tavo is, therefore, rather fascinating in its structure in that Bnei Yisrael are first presented with what could be considered a skeleton list of behaviors to be avoided lest one be cursed followed by an extremely detailed composition describing life when blessed by Hashem verses life when cursed by Hashem.

 

The skeletal list of curses, which one expects from the text to be paired with a similar list of blessings but is not, are fascinating. They do not mention any of the halachos that we most associate with living a Torah life, and they do not mention anything about the avodah, although the mishkan and its actions have taken up a large percentage of the Torah thus far. In fact, of all the curses listed, only one could be considered bein adom l’makom – and that one prohibits the making of idols and setting them up in secret, which is a very specified avodah zara.

 

In other words, Hashem is not saying to curse the person who does not keep Shabbas or who eats non-kosher food or who violates the holidays, even though these topics are related numerous times in the Torah. But one who violates basic human decency, that is whom one should curse, and the actions for which one shall be cursed are oddly specific: insulting one’s parents, moving a landmark, misdirecting a blind person, taking a bribe to be a false witness, and etc. Taken as a whole, however, they create broad brush strokes of decency.

 

The only one of the curses that is not hyper-focused, so to speak, is the concluding “Cursed be whoever will not uphold the terms of this Torah and observe them.—And all the people shall say, Amen” (Devarim 27:26). The debate, which one can even say is ongoing as rabbis today prepare divrei Torah, is whether this refers to the just completed list to which it belongs or to the Torah in its entirety. But that is a mute point for now.

 

There is one other subtle unifying factor of these curses. They are all private acts, things that might be done when – or because – there are no witnesses.

 

The curses and the blessings are to be recited just before Bnei Yisrael enter the Promised Land. This warning of the temptations that might follow, the lure of selfish violations of decency, is declared just before Bnei Yisrael are going to leave the safety of Hashem’s palpable presence. These curses are a mother or father telling their newly adult child not to overspend on their credit card. It might not seem problematic and it’s so easy to do, but the repercussions for the future are serious.

 

The curses of transgressors of decency may be directed at entering the Land of Canaan in Parshas Ki Tavo, but the curses are a warning no matter where one lives. And the temptations are far greater in gulus than when Bnei Yisrael lived in the spiritually infused Promised Land, where the recognition of Torah and Hashem was ever-present. So here we are, 2 long millennia in exile constantly encountering a world in which the mores of society are ever changing. Ours, however, should not. Gulus is a world in which Hashem’s face is hidden, in which we struggle to feel the spiritual around us, but the necessity of being a good person – of not doing ill to another even when one thinks they cannot be caught – never goes away.

 

I wish you all a good Shabbas.

 

Parshas Ki Tezei – All for One or One for All

In America, every person is entitled to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness – a philosophical statement of rights, if nothing else. It sounds lovely, and it does appear to be the heart of western society today. The question for a Dvar Torah, however, is what does that have to do with Torah. Do these values line up with Jewish values? Let’s look at them in reverse order and see how they compare to the mitzvos of Parshas Ki Tezei, or at least some of them.

 

The pursuit of happiness is an abstract concept. One assumes that it was not meant to mean that every person should put themselves and their specific wants as first priority, but it does seem that this is how society has devolved in the decades that have passed. The halachos of the Torah in this week’s parsha, however, emphasize that the pursuit of happiness takes second priority to the “pursuit” of a harmonious community. Thus we have the commandment, and the detailed rules expanded upon in the Torah she’baal peh, of returning a lost object (Devarim 22:1-3) and, similarly, the halachos of helping even an enemy if his oxen have fallen on the road. We put others first.

 

The right to liberty is defined in the Merriam-Webster dictionary as the quality or state of being free; the power to do as one pleases, the freedom from physical restraint, and the freedom from arbitrary or despotic control. Is this different than the Pursuit of Happiness? Happiness is stating that how I  feel matters more than other people. Liberty means that my choices need to be without constraint. But in this week’s parsha, we learn about the laws of Yibum – the law by which a man must marry the widow of his brother if his brother died without children. There are, of course, halachos to exempt oneself, but the idea remains a firm part of Torah. A person does not necessarily have liberty in a Torah world. Even the most intimate aspects of a person’s life are constraint by law.

 

The right to life seems like an incredibly basic entitlement. And, in truth, most of Western Civilization is built on a Judeo-Christian foundation that places tremendous importance on life. But stating that one has a right to life implies that one has a right to no-life, that one can throw one’s life away or choose not to live. There is no right to life in the Torah; there is a responsibility to life. We see this in Parshas Ki Tezei in Devarim 22:8: “When you build a new house, then you shall make a parapet around your roof, that you shall not bring blood upon your house, if any man fall from there.”

 

It is a person’s responsibility to protect life – even on a roof-top upon which they never choose to tread. This verse, this one simple verse, reflects the identity of Klal Yisrael. Why are the numbers so disparate in the current war? Because it is built into us to know that we must protect life, that life is precious, and that life is not a right but a responsibility. Sadly, in the State of Israel, one must not only build parapets around rooftops but safe rooms and bunkers. The government invests in such evolved protection because every life matters.

 

Western civilization has taken the American Founding Fathers’ call to the right for Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness to its extreme, and, as a result, we’ve lost far too many Jews to attrition and assimilation. The evolution of Western society has allowed Jews an unprecedented opportunity to live peacefully in our gulus, to feel like we can be both who we are religiously and still be part of our host nation. And that is fine – I myself am a proud American and a proud Canadian – as long as being a Jew is what shapes our moral outlook.

 

Parshas Ki Tezei could be read as a list of rules, a review of halacha learned throughout the wandering in the Wilderness. Within that list, however, we see the true dignity of Torah: return a lost object; unload a beast lying under its burden; do not leave out a stumbling block; pay your workers’ wages on time; do not charge one’s brother interest nor hold on to the collateral of a borrower over night if it is something that they might need; not to have inaccurate scales; and etc. The parsha also talks about war, about bringing home a captured woman as a wife (how to treat her so that the truth of the relationship might be revealed and as a warning against the dangers that may come from such a union) and about remembering Amalek, who thought us a weak nation.

 

In this time period, when the shadows of the world continue to grow and the anti-Semitism long buried in the veneer of Western Civilization continues to be revealed, remember that this is who we are – a nation that values each person, their life and their dignity, because each life is essential to who we all are and not just because we want to make certain that our own happiness is guaranteed.

Parshas Shoftim - Relating to Kingship.

 As school years begin across the northern hemisphere, millions of children are sitting in their classrooms, looking at their teachers, and asking, “Why do we have to learn this?” It was even noted at a recent teacher training conference that this question can be hard to answer specifically for a history teacher. Kids don’t generally resonate with “Those who forget the past are doomed to repeat it.” Nevertheless, the truth of this statement is highlighted in the current global climate when leadership in so many countries is shifting. Many people were in denial over the possible return of nationalism, and, equally, it still astonishes many that countries could choose to follow the path of Communism that failed so gloriously in the USSR.

What, you might be wondering, does this have to do with the parsha, parshas Shoftim? Shoftim has a wealth of fascinating subsections and verses that could, indeed, be connected to our current situation – some literally and some more figuratively - but in a world rocked by leadership debates it seemed pertinent that we are reminded of the Torah’s dictates on a Jewish king. It is famously known that the Torah prohibits kings of Israel from owning too many horses or marrying too many wives. It is also common knowledge that each king is obligated to write two Torah scrolls, and the reason for this is “so that his heart will not be haughty over his brothers, and so that he will not turn away from the commandment, either to the right or to the left, in order that he may prolong [his] days in his kingdom, he and his sons, among Israel” (Devarim 17:20).

Devarim 17:20 may be speaking of the ancient kings, of the men who reigned in the days of the Beis Hamikdash, and of royalty when all of klal Yisrael understood the Divinity of Torah. But the instructions in the Torah are often those which most resonate throughout time and regardless of place. Now we look at our world today and we have to wonder. “…so that his heart will not be haughty.”

Is there a politician today about whom one can say they are not haughty? Is there a “world leader” for whom it isn’t apparent that they are always going to put themselves first, to adjust the rules as they need them? Sadly, not really. And this is not a statement about any one particular party or figure; this is all of them.

Except now we are in Elul. Now we are in a time when we are meant to focus on Kingship – as it is said: “The King is in the field.” Now is the time to approach Hashem and supplicate Him even as we draw close, spiritually, and remember His awesomeness.

The verses on choosing a human king are separated out as their own aliyah (sheini). The message is important. Human leaders are, by nature, easily led to think themselves godlike in their power, untouchable by the world. (As an aside, haven’t you ever wondered when a politician gets caught in a public scandal how someone who lives under constant press coverage could believe they could have a secret life?) Once upon a time we thought that if we got rid of absolute monarchies, we would solve the problem of leaders who were led astray by arrogance, by wealth, or by their own frivolous whims, and so we moved to democracies hoping that these leaders would always remember to whom they were responsible. But anyone who must face election cycle after election cycle inevitably must build up their ego and must cater to special parties. This is history. History shows us how human leadership is… human.

In the closing days of Av, all of Klal Yisrael was devastated by the news of the monstrous execution of six of the hostages. It rocked our world. They were so close to freedom after suffering so long. For all these months we prayed for their lives, and Hashem said yes. For all these months we prayed for their freedom, and then Hashem said no. And we don’t really understand. We want to understand why such a terrible thing has occurred, but we never will because we are humans, because we see the world and see our slice of history, our specific story. We won’t be able to understand, but we look toward the leadership and are reminded that they seemingly put their own specific agendas first. But they are human, they cannot see the bigger picture.

It is Elul. The King is in the field. The King of kings knows the good and the bad and everything in between. He knows how much this hurt our nation, but He also knows the why that we may never understand.

Coming into Elul with this tragedy on our heads may have us perplexed. We davened so hard for these hostages, and Hashem said no. What do we do now? Now we turn to Hashem and we recognize His answer, and then we daven that their deaths will not be in vain, that we will, perhaps, be able to see a sliver of the bigger picture soon. We turn to the King of kings, and we declare how we accept His far broader perspective of the world, but nevertheless, we ask for what we need, what we want, and what we hope for. We daven, we request, we supplicate… yes, we have many words for ways we address Hashem … but we never forget that Hashem is the King.

It’s been a long week of reflection. May this Shabbas bring us a sense of comfort and peace, and May Hashem send Moshiach soon so that we can truly, truly understand.

 

Good Shabbas